Doing Nothing Gets You Nothing
For a while I’ve wanted to write a post that is both motivational and inspirational. I am a firm believer in the power of you, and believing in yourself. I see so may people that are unhappy in their lives, and they listen to others too much. they continue to do the same old things, hoping things will magically change. The problem is, they almost never will, unless it’s by pure luck. I believe in luck, but only a little. I think you make your own luck, by increasing your own chances for success. One thing that many people don’t understand is that doing nothing usually gets you nothing.
You can’t live your life hoping things will come to you. You can work hard at your day job and hope that you win the lottery, but if you never play, you’ll never win. While the lottery is fun, I don’t think that’s the answer, and it definitely shouldn’t be your retirement plan. Just like playing the lottery increases your chance of winning, setting goals and keeping at them like a shark after its next meal should eventually end in success. If you never even get started, it is sure to never happen. You have to pursuit something to actually get it. This isn’t easy, though, for several reasons:
- You have to change the way you think.
- You have to be open to new ideas.
- You have to be open to change in the first place.
- You have to be willing to learn new things.
- People, including friends and family, will tear you down.
- You have to invest a lot into your own success.(Time, money, your energy)
- You still have a chance of not making it.
- There may be a lot of rejection.
For some, the fear of failure is what kills their dreams. They have the tools, the knowledge, the ideas, and everything else to make it happen. For some reason, the fear of rejection and failure overtakes them. This is killer, though, because they end up living the rest of their lives wondering “what if?” or “I should have”.
Some simple things to keep in mind:
- If you never start, you are sure to never get there. You’ll never have what you want, because you never tried.
- If you don’t ask, the answer will definitely be no. You have to ask!
- If you’re not always trying to move forward, you’ll always be stuck in the same place.
- If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will.
- It’s your life, no one owns it but you. It is what you make of it, and what you do with it.
I was brought up with the idea that you should go to school, work hard, and get a good job. Life revolves around work, and there are certain ways that you should do things. My dad worked12-14 hour days, sometimes longer, and his day started at 3am, sometimes ending at 6PM that day. He was miserable, not because he didn’t finish high school and pursuit an education, but because he never tried anything. he never pursued his ideas, and just stuck with his job.
So, I worked hard, went to school for graphic design and graduated with a 3.98 GPA, landing a Bachelor’s Degree. I did things the “right” way, and played my cards “right”. The problem is, i still couldn’t find a job. After racking up 50K in student loans, the best job I could get was making $13 an hour as an in-house graphic designer for a local business. There was no room for advancement, no good jobs in the area, and I was extremely unhappy.
With 2 children and not enough money to live on, I knew I had to do something. Anything would be better than what I was doing, so I decided to start my own business on the side while I worked full time. After a year or 2 of working full time, running a website design business on the side, a blogging/writing business, and sleeping 3-4 hours per night at best, I was finally able to quit my day job.
Why Did This work?
One reason: I knew that if I did nothing to change my situation, that’s exactly what I would always have – nothing. I was determined to give my children a better life, and I felt like I personally deserved more out of life than working my ass off to make someone else rich. I got angry enough about my situation to do something and change it.
I was determined enough to put in the work to make it happen. I wrote articles for my own blog, and was building up the traffic and subscriber list to build revenue on the side. This opened the door for other opportunities. I was approached to write articles about design for GraphicDesign.com. Eventually, I realized that I could get paid to write for other sites and I started pitching myself as a writer to some bigger websites. With GraphicDesign.com as a reference, I was able to land DesignFestival(Now integrated with SitePoint), FuelYourCreativity, and other places. Combining this with my local web design business, I was able to build my income up enough to be double what my day job was, so I was comfortable leaving.
What I hope you’ll take away from this
If you don’t get anything that I’ve said in this post, I hope you will understand that if you don’t do something, such as start, change, etc., you’ll never have anything you want. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. I hope you’ll take the next step and start working toward your goals today. In the end, you’ll be much happier, and you’ll have a much better chance of finding success when you do things to open doors for yourself.